Making Hostile Words Harmless: A Guide to the Power of Positive Speaking For Helping Professionals and Their Clients Review

The methods described in this book are easy to use and render any verbal assaults harmless. When insulted or critized, I used to sulk, overthink, insult back, feel helpless or nearly kill myself trying to please everyone. Most of us aren't taught by our parents or school how to deflect negativity without experiencing some negativity ourselves. I can't say how priceless and mind-easing this book has been to me. Thank you Ms. Cohen-Posey!!

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More Than Victims: Battered Women, the Syndrome Society, and the Law (Morality and Society Series) Review

Battered women syndrome, unheard of several decades ago, is now the subject of heated debate in courtrooms across America. In More than Victims, Donald Downs offers a sympathetic and powerful analysis of the injustices behind the logic of battered women syndrome, ultimately revealing how that very logic harms those it is trying to protect.

Battered women syndrome proposes that battered women suffer from "learned helplessness," a condition affecting the way these women think, feel, and behave. Downs argues that the syndrome's logic denies women their reason and will, reinforcing their victimization. Drawing on extensive research as well as on personal interviews with abused women and professionals in the field, he attempts to distinguish the syndrome from the reality of domestic abuse.

Downs shows that battered women often adopt heroic means of survival, retaining accurate, reasoned perceptions concerning the actions and intentions of their abusers. To portray battered women as lacking reason and will undermines otherwise valid self-defense claims and hurts women more generally. Courts that have relied on battered women syndrome in child custody cases, for example, have often deprived mothers of custody, declaring them incapable of responsible parenting.

Addressing our "syndrome society" more generally, Downs concludes that we can achieve justice without stripping victims of reason and personal responsibility, the very attributes that make citizenship possible. By taking into account specific situations and accurate perceptions of danger rather than psychological incapacity, battered women can find justice without being reduced to victims.

A persuasive account of how constitutional freedom and individual justice can be threatened by current legal standards, this thorough yet accessible work presents a dramatic rethinking of the criminal justice system.







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Soft Targets: A Woman's Guide To Survival Review

Detective Mike Varnado has done it again! Similar to "Loss of Faith: Victims of Dead Man Walking", he has taken true to life crimes, not those of the Hollywood version mind you, and detailed them in an easy to understand format to protect yourself and others from from tragedy.
This book not only explains the backgrounds of the criminal acts and victims of crime, but also explains what could have and should have been done to best avoid the worst case scenario. While this book may not save every person in the world from the criminal mind, it will most certainly make you a harder target to be taken advantage of. This is a MUST READ book for anyone within the criminal justice system, homeland security, and even those of a most passive mindset. Criminals DO exist. Please don't think you may never be a victim. Read the book, and your chances of becoming a victim of crime are reduced significantly.
Detective Mike rocks! I've never met the man, but it is clearly obvious he knows what he's talking about. Don't be fooled by Hollywood granduer - learn it from the source. A man who's spent a lifetime making sure everyday citizens do not have to fall prey to crime.

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One Less Victim: A Prevention Guide Review

Genre: Self-help
Title: one less victim
AUTHOR: Doug setter
The news today is filled with stories of horrible crimes inflicted on innocent victims. It can often seem hopeless to honest people who feel defenseless against the endless wave of crime. But it is not so hopeless if we can avoid appearing as a victim to begin with.

"One Less Victim" is a detailed guide to personal safety that covers almost every potential pitfall to victimization, from physical dangers, to Internet scams. Doug Setter educates the reader on avoiding dangerous situations, not appearing as a target, and the power and responsibility of the victim to report the crime. He uses many titles and subtitles for clarity that cover an amazingly broad spectrum of dangerous situations. It is guaranteed that the average reader will find some valuable and enlightening information here.

Doug Setter has a comfortable, streetwise style of writing, allowing anyone to easily access the information in his book. He uses many necessary references, an important ingredient in this sort of self-help book. It does not, however, read like a research project, which makes a great deal of sense when considering the diversity of people the author wants to reach.

Doug Setter has the ideal background to write a book with a straight-forward, streetwise approach to personal crime prevention. He has worked as a crime writer for a Vancouver newspaper, and as an infantry sergeant for the United Nations peacekeepers. He has studied self-defense for 20 years and has been published in several Canadian newspapers.

This book would make a great gift for many, from the new college student leaving home for the first time, to the single senior citizen. It is a very useful book that may very well save the reader from some very unpleasant situation.
Reviewer: Nancy Morris, Allbooks Reviews.


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One Woman Every Minute Review

Rape is not something I want to think about, so when my mom gave me One Woman Every Minute, I was reluctant to read it. I'm so glad I did. I finished it in one evening, and came away feeling confident that I have a better sense of how to act if anyone ever tries to rape me. I especially liked the illustrated self-defense techniques in the book. They were simple, yet looked very effective. I actually feel as though I could fight back if I ever had to.

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7 Weeks to Safe Social Drinking: How to Effectively Moderate Your Alcohol Intake Review

This is the best book I've read about moderate drinking and how to get there.

Most of the time I don't have a problem with alcohol but sometimes it takes
over and I drink too much. I have found the suggestions in this book invaluable,
especially pre-planning my drinking behavior with the tips in the program,
eating while I'm drinking and watching the clock to slow down my drinking.
That's just for starters. Cornett gives lots of tips and also works on your
attitude about alcohol and its importance in your life.

I think this book could change the world and have given it to friends who
drink too much.

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It is my life, my health, my choice, and I Choose to A.C.T. Assailant Countering Tactics: A Woman's Guide to Self Empowerment Review

The over all layout for the book is not too bad. The premise and reality of the action and thought processes seem lacking in real world reference and experience. Over all, the strategies recommended would likely end poorly for the the reader in real life. Pass.

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We're Here! We're Queer! Get Used to Us! Survival Strategies for a Hostile World Review

Dr. Regina Sewell's amazing book tells the stories of GLBTQ (gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered and queer/questioning) people who have successfully fought back against anti-gay violence.

Sewell's book does something most other self-defense books do not--it focuses on the positives, on the techniques that worked rather than the ones that didn't. Sewell uses empowerment, not fear, to coach GLBTQ people how to deal with harassment, verbal abuse, discrimination, and violence.

Some of the anecdotes in her book are amusing (e.g., the young lesbian who punched a would-be date rapist in the nose and then told him to act like a g--d--- gentleman), others disturbing (e.g., the gay man who chose not to fight a rapist because he feared he would be killed if he saw his attacker's face). In granting all survivors the same respect, Sewell honors ALL coping styles, not just the ones that turn up in action movies.

Written in an engaging, supportive style, this book is a valuable resource that should be on the shelf of anyone who is GLBTQ, or anyone who loves someone who is GLBTQ.

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Be Not Afraid: A Young Woman's Guide to Personal Defense Review

This book teaches young women how to keep themselves safe from so many kinds of dangerous and inappropriate situations, from crude remarks at school to violent attacks, date rape, and even kidnapping. It helps young women think about situations they may be faced with, and make decisions now to protect themselves in the future. Mrs. Wardwell seems to really understand teenage girls, and she communicates well with them as she "talks" to them in this book. I am definitely going to have my ten-year-old daughter read this book now that I have finished it. I think every woman and young woman need to learn the safety tips this book contains.

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Killing in Self-Defence (Oxford Monographs on Criminal Law and Justice) Review

This book provides a comprehensive and intriguing analysis of the criminal defense of self-defense from a philosophical, legal and human rights perspective. Although not always recognized as such, the legality of self-defense is often contentious, as it permits the victim of an attack to preserve his or her life at the expense of another, and as such, it often poses a challenge to attorneys to prove why an aggressor is, for reasons of age or insanity, for example, not responsible for his or her actions. Killing in Self-Defence identifies the proper theoretical basis of the claim of self-defense. It examines the classification of defenses, the concepts of justification, and excuse, and considers the nuanced differences between self-defense and the closely related defenses of duress and necessity. It also critically analyzes the differing philosophical explanations of why self-defensive killing is justified from a human rights perspective, and is the first comprehensive analysis of the law of self-defense across the major common law jurisdictions.







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The Secret of Overcoming Verbal Abuse: Getting Off the Emotional Roller Coaster and Regaining Control of Your Life Review

"A lie can travel halfway around the world while the truth is putting on his shoes."

I cannot stand by and let more lies about this book and Dr. Ellis be perpetrated. A "Shopper" from Tucson, Arizona a.k.a. tucsonshopper [review May 10, 2008] has sent lies halfway around the web while the truth is putting on its shoes on. These types of lies like other harsh reviews regarding this book are precisely the either/or black or white thinking that Dr. Ellis defines as neurotic thinking and such reviews often say more about the reviewers than the book, and bespeak a profound misunderstanding of Ellisian theory. Dr. Ellis' book is a nuanced, more objective, account than most books on the subject -- the books concrete people love to hate because this politically charged topic lends itself to the crooked thinking Ellis railed against in his lifetime. Fortunately, sound thinking is in place and the Tusconian is of the minority opinion, giving it a 2 star rating while the majority gave it 5 STAR rating. I will address a few key areas:

1) To refer to Dr. Ellis as a bully (interestingly there is no criticism of his coauthor Marcia Grad Powers - is gender a factor here?) is not only false but a ludicrous depiction of the world's most prolific psychologist, who was named by his peers as the most influential therapist of his time, and the most influential clinician in the history of the psychology in Canada and number two in the United States. Most bullies, or the bully perspective aren't highly respected by their peers. As "richard31416" brilliantly states in his May 11, 2004 review, the book, "In no way implies that there is a "right" or a "privilege" to abuse . . . it is clear from the context and the thrust of the book that the intended meaning is, `my partner, as a separate, free moral agent, is free to abuse me if he so chooses, even though it is wrong and destructive, and it is my job to decide how I will respond, since I can't control his choices or his behavior.'" Like Ellis/Powers' book this is a nuanced review that skirts absolutistic, immature thinking. Not "A Shopper" from Tucson who instead recommends Suzette Elgin's nuance-free title, "You can't say that to me!"

2) The Arizonan goes on to compare Ellis to, "an `antisocial' abuser, borderline, bi-polar, or "closet" narcissist" who is 'remorseless'" Which begs the question how many people with the above attributes dedicates their life to improving the lives of others and society as a whole while giving all the earnings from his books back to the Institute and making $14,000 a year? That does not sound like borderline, bipolar, etc., etc., etc. The "evidence" submitted includes twisting & distorting facts from Ellis' memoirs. The reviewer can twist perceptions but reality won't budge. However, rather than focus on the content of THIS book the reviewer diverts attention to another book, and fails to look the content of this book and try to hack away at his reputation. In fact, precious little in the "review" addresses any of the content the book, but feebly attempts to attack the persona of Ellis.


The rest of the review by Tucsonshopper is too vague to dignify with specifics, but it includes broadly dismissing humanistic psychology (which includes dozens of therapeutic modalities under it's umbrella) as morally relativistic. Quite a statement!

In conclusion, using the reviewer's twisted logic I suggest the following: Readers do yourself a favor, don't read any more of A "Shopper" from Tucson, Arizona a.k.a. tucsonshopper's reviews. I feel her character, based on her other reviews, (rather than the content of her of this one) discredit her validity. Her shoes aren't tied but her mind is, in knots.

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The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize it and How to Respond Review

Of all books about abuse , there is no author who understands abuse better than Patricia. (Although, she blames it a bit too much on patriarchy in society. Aside from that, her book is a superbook). A great emotional healer for thoe who have been in an abusive situation in the past. Also a great book for becoming aware of & understanding abuse, in order to help out others. Her other 2 books on abuse are also must reads.

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Defensive Living: When Defensive Driving, Diets, and Exercise Aren't Enough to Keep You Alive and Well! Review

I've loaned my copy out so much that it's falling apart. This is required reading for my private students. Most come back with an appreciation of the true value of the martial arts and understanding that force and violence do not necessarily have to be your primary weapon to survive and `win' an encounter.

Too often we fall into the trap that it is our skill, strength and technique that is important, this book points out that our best weapon is still intelligence and an understanding of human behavior.

If nothing else, this book makes my students consider a wider spectrum of what they consider `self-defense' techniques and forces them to confront their own preconceived values and ideas. Any book that does this is valuable.

Along with this book my students are required to read: STRONG ON DEFENSE, by Stanford Strong, and THE GIFT OF FEAR, by Gavin De Becker to give them an overview of how to plan, and prepare for possible threats and gain an understanding of the individuals out there who may someday be a danger to you, your family and friends.


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Self Defense For Women Protect Yourself Review

"Women Are Being Attacked Each And Every
Day Around The World. It's Time That
Women Stop The Violence TODAY!"

Woman Deserve To Know How To Protect Them
Self Or Those They Love, Against Those Who
Want To Hurt Them Or Their Loved Ones.

The statistics on violence against women are staggering – even overwhelming. Often, women are thought of as the weaker sex, unable to defend themselves effectively against a strong male attacker. It's this kind of thinking that hurt women.

The truth is that women CAN and SHOULD fight back when they are threatened. It takes a lot of courage to fight back, though, and many myths exist regarding women's self-defense training. These myths include:

You have to learn martial arts to defend yourself
There's no way you can over-power your attacker
Just give in and let them have what they want
If someone wants to get to you, they will no matter what you do.

All you need to know to defend yourself is how to fight
All of these statements are, indeed, myths. There are many, many ways you can protect yourself from being compromised or assaulted. They don't necessarily involve martial arts, they don't require you to know how to fight, and they definitely don't require you to give in to your attacker.

You Don't Have To Be A Victim!
Self defense is about ending a violent attack against your person. Self defense is not about sparring and exchanging blows with another person. You see, the best self defense of all is to not put yourself in harm's way.

The second best self defense technique is to run. If neither of these options are available, you MUST know how to defend yourself to save your life.

There are tons and tons of information out there regarding self defense for women and how to make sure that no one gets the upper hand when trying to overcome you. In fact, having all that information, literally, at your fingertips can be confusing. The truth is, there is really not one right way to defend yourself. The decision is a personal one and definitely depends on the situation.

Don't Get Take In By All The Self-Help Programs That
Don't Give You All The Facts.

It's true that there are hundreds and hundreds of people out there willing to sell you the best book on martial arts, the most wonderful guide to gun ownership ever, the best way to administer a "groin shot", etc. Some of these guides are great resources, but they're not for everyone.

How can you weed through all of the "fool-proof" techniques and figure out what's right for you? You may not be able to, but having too much information is better than having not enough. Which is why we're proud to offer to you our amazing e-book, "Self Defense for Women: Don't Be another Statistic."
We are presenting you with all sides of defending yourself against violence. There is no ONE way that is right.

You deserve to be fully prepared. The amount of information out there can be overwhelming. We understand. That's why we wrote this book!

Why Buy 10 Books When You Can Buy Just This One?
Doesn't quite make sense, does it? We have packed so much information into the pages of this book, it could have been over a hundred pages, but it's not. It's easy to read and gets right to the point in just over 60 pages.

Don't Spend Hours Reading Books And Articles That
Won't Help. All You Need Is THIS Book!

The fact is that women are attacked more often and more violently than any other group of people. That includes all races, ages, and demographic pigeonholes. Women are looked on as vulnerable and easy targets. That's why the statistics are so high.

It's time to bring those numbers down and empower women against violent attacks. With this e-book, you'll find all sorts of information and, best of all, an answer to the question, "How do I defend myself when I'm not sure I can?"









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SELF-DEFENSE FOR WOMEN - Dont Be Another Statistic Review

Table of Contents


Introduction
Real-Life Stories
What to Be Afraid Of
Domestic Violence
What is Self-Defense
How Not to Be a Victim
Tools of Protection
Your Mental State
Rape
Carjacking
Purse Snatching
Home Invasion
ATM Safety
Unmarked Police Car
Street Safety
Workplace Safety
Kid Safety
A Street Chase
Martial Arts
Conclusion







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The Woman's Guide to The P.O.W.E.R. Self-Defense Lifestyle Review

What is POWER and who has it?POWER (Protecting Our Woman against Endangerment & Rape) lifestyle is the most exciting and innovative training to come along in years. Fear comes from the unknown but there is power in knowledge. Women are tired of being scared. Now, thanks to Edie Keesee's training, women across the country are taking back their lives. Now, you too can have the POWER to make your life safer and defend yourself. 'Rape is not about sex, it is about power and control'. How many times have we heard that? This doesn't seem to make sense until you learn about the enemy. There three different types of rapist and each is motivated by something different, but the victims are the same, women...and their weapon is the same, sex.POWER is easy to learn. It not only shows step-by-step photos of the physical techniques for personal safety, but it also covers subjects like; how the law defines rape, myths about rape, safety tips with real life stories to drive the point home, natural weapons on our bodies and natural vulnerable spots on his, survival stress and how our bodies act, and strangulation. But it is much more than education, it is a lifestyle.Every 6 minutes a rape occurs...1out of 4 women will be a victim of rape attempted rape in her lifetime...an estimated 1 million women will be raped in the U.S. this year...90%will know their attacker....we are tired of being victims. You owe it to yourself to find out more about the POWER Personal Safety Lifestyle.Don't miss the real life stories, humor, honesty, and reality of assault and learn how to deal with it.







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Self Defense For Women: Don't Be Another Statistic Review

Women have long been considered the weaker sex, much to the protestations of feminists everywhere. Unfortunately, this stereotype exists even today in the 21st century. Perhaps that's why violent crimes against women are at an all-time high.
All women live with a certain level of risk for crime. In fact, a 21-year-old woman today has a 1 in 4 chance of having a violent crime committed against her. These crimes range from the shocking such as rape to simply intrusive like car jacking or purse snatching.
What's even scarier is that often, the crimes committed against women happen in their own homes by a loved one like a husband or boyfriend. What a horrible feeling to have to worry about your safety and well being in the place where you should feel safest.
The answer to combating crimes against women isn't as difficult as you might think. All women can benefit from self-defense hints and tips. Some just don't see the need at all. But one victim gives the following to think about when considering whether or not you need to know at least a few self-defense measures.
Why You Should Care About Self Defense
1. Because you can't even imagine what it feels like to be violated like that.
2. Because he's stronger than you are and you will be helpless against him
3. All you have is yourself when it comes to self-defense
4. Being a victim stays with you for life and it's not easy to cope sometimes
5. When you defend yourself against a criminal, they know there's at least one woman he can't overpower
6. Knowing self-defense is a lot better than waking up at night screaming and crying from a nightmare about the crime
7. Look at it as insurance – insurance for you and your well-being
8. It's not difficult to learn and even easier to carry out
9. Learning self-defense is your best counterattack against surviving a rape or assault
Self-defense isn't karate or judo. It isn't learning how to shoot a gun or handle a Taser. It involves knowing how to avoid situations that put you at risk then coupling them with evasive techniques that can help keep you safe and sound.
Inside the pages of this book, you will find many, many tips and hints on how to keep yourself out of harm's way. The best self-defense is a proactive offense, and we'll teach you how to do that.
We'll also provide you with some basic self-defense moves along with ways to use common objects when defending yourself against an attacker. You'd be surprise at how many uses you can find from a small bottle of body spray!
There is an ongoing debate regarding the use of weapons by women when defending themselves. We'll look at that debate and give you some facts to help you decide if carrying a weapon is the right route for you.
You owe it to yourself to stay safe. Don't let the criminals win – prove to them that women can be strong too. Learn self-defense and be confident that when the time comes, you'll be able to defend yourself. There's no time like the present!

Table of Contents
Introduction 3
Real-Life Stories 5
What to Be Afraid Of 8
Domestic Violence 10
What is Self-Defense 12
How Not to Be a Victim 13
Tools of Protection 16
Your Mental State 25
Rape 28
Carjacking 30
Purse Snatching 31
Home Invasion 33
ATM Safety 39
Unmarked Police Car 43
Street Safety 46
Workplace Safety 48
Kid Safety 54
A Street Chase 57
Martial Arts 59
Conclusion 60







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Self Defense For Women - Don't Be Another Statistic Review

"Women Are Being Attacked Each And Every Day Around The World. It's Time That Women Stop The Violence TODAY!" Woman Deserve To Know How To Protect Them Self Or Those They Love, Against Those Who Want To Hurt Them Or Their Loved Ones. The truth is that women CAN and SHOULD fight back when they are threatened. It takes a lot of courage to fight back, though, and many myths exist regarding women's self-defense training. These myths include: * You have to learn martial arts to defend yourself * There's no way you can over-power your attacker * Just give in and let them have what they want * If someone wants to get to you, they will no matter what you do * All you need to know to defend yourself is how to fight All of these statements are, indeed, myths. There are many, many ways you can protect yourself from being compromised or assaulted. They don't necessarily involve martial arts, they don't require you to know how to fight, and they definitely don't require you to give in to your attacker. "Self Defense for Women: Don't Be another Statistic" can give you and your female loved ones piece of mind when out in the world with practical advice that anyone can put into use immediately. Self-defense is all about surviving a situation where there is a very real risk of physical harm. This requires first-hand knowledge of techniques you can use to defend yourself without thinking. However, not everyone has enough time to learn a multitude of techniques. What everyone really needs is just a handful of simple yet effective techniques that are useful for any situation. That's what we're providing you TODAY! Martial arts classes are great, but it takes a very long time to get proficient enough in the system to be able to use it for self defense. What will do in the meantime? What if something happens and you are clueless about what to do in that situation? By ordering "Self Defense for Women: Don't Be another Statistic" today, you'll be able to learn about common sense self defense options you might have never thought about. Such options as: * Using perfume as a deterrent * How to make a car key a lethal weapon * What to scream other than "Help!" * Getting out of a car your attacker has cornered you in * Talking yourself through an attack – and talking your attacker out of it * Plus SO MUCH MORE! There are hundreds of ways that you can avoid becoming a victim of violence. Even when that violence occurs in your own home! Domestic violence is the worst type to have to defend yourself against. Would you really be able to use brute force against your partner? What if he was attacking you? Would you be able to then? The key here is to change your mindset and remember that whether you are attacked on the street or in your own bedroom, you have the right to defend yourself! It doesn't really matter if you know your attacker or not.







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Self-Defense Secrets For Moms Review

As a mom, your self-defense needs aren't like anyone else's because an attack with your child requires a different set of skills than if you're confronted alone. That's why generic self-defense tips you've heard before won't help!

So whether you're approached by a carjacker or kidnapper, at home or on the street, read Self-Defense Secrets For Moms, the first and only book of its kind. It is a complete reference which refutes common self-defense myths and reveals the secrets every mom must learn to protect herself and her children.







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You Can't Say That to Me: Stopping the Pain of Verbal Abuse -- An 8-Step Program Review

Elgin's book brought tears to my eyes as I recognized myself in the examples provided in her book. What I liked best about this book is that I began to see that my relationship with my former husband was not my only instance of horrific verbal abuse. It forced me to admit to myself that all of my intimate relationships with men have been verbally abusive; and I came to recognize that verbal violence was a part of my regular communication with my siblings and my mother. What could this mean? I began to see that I was in fact the common denominator. This is not to say that I deserve verbal abuse or that it is my fault. The only coping skills I knew were to fall into my verbal abusers traps by pleading and debating. Not to mention the emotional aftermath of feeling like a worthless human being. Elgin provided me with an excellent selection of new verbal strategies. While it would be great if these verbal skills have an effect on the abusers in my life the real victory is that I will now have more control over how I react to the verbal abuse. I will now no longer be reduced to a mewling child begging for forgiveness for the rainy weather that somehow was my fault. What I struggled with was Elgin's implication that these systems are infallible. I think that presentation is dangerously flawed. Part of my abuse cycle is that my abusers had me convinced that my love was the most important thing in their world. I would therefore forgive them, believe them and accept their abuse because I felt responsible for loving them. "He loves me," I would think, "underneath it all he is a good person and he needs me." Therefore I endured these relationships and repeated my abuse cycle. Elgin unfortunately gave strength to that misconception. As I stated, I cried from this book because my first thoughts were ones of guilt: "If only I had this book sooner; I could have saved my marriage!" But I do know that even Elgin could not have helped me there. The truth is you cannot change another person with your own actions. You only have control of your own self. An abuser must ultimately accept responsibility for the pain that they cause. I do understand that the abuser inflicts pain to mask their own, but I know very few abusers who are willing to face their demons and change. I am excited to try her techniques in my life and begin empowering myself. However, abuse of any kind I will not tolerate anymore. In my situation, divorce was my only option. Sometimes the only way to end the abuse is to say goodbye. I wish Elgin had addressed that issue.

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